Empathy in Partnership

Partnership—aka living together—can be challenging, but it also opens the door to step up and lead by example.

Don’t take it personally if your partner is mad at you. It could be they feel unsupported, overwhelmed, or just tired.

Don’t respond in anger or with resentment if your partner yells at you. Stay calm and see how your help or support can improve the situation.

Don’t try to convince your partner at a bad time, like when they’re in a rush. Maybe they just need some time alone.

Don’t get mad if your partner can’t decide about simple things. Instead, try taking care of some of their mental load.

Don’t get mad when your partner makes mistakes, and don’t “remember that” later just to make them feel bad. It’s hurtful.

Don’t answer right away—listen and acknowledge your own mistakes, even if you want to justify your behavior. Keep those explanations for calmer discussions.

Keep your harsh words in your head.

Support your partner when it’s very difficult for you or when you feel like you’re imploding, because that’s how you grow into the partner they need.